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naialani
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Posted: Wed Jun 4th, 2008 10:36 pm | 27th Post |
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DreamReacher wrote: Hi Jamie,
When I was in the middle of a hard core domestic violence relationship, I decided that I wasn't willing to do be a victim any more. I decided that I was worth the peace that I wanted to experience. I began telling myself, "I can choose peace instead of this." and, "Peace begins with me." Both of these quotes come from A Course in Miracles. This is basically what I did this time, only I did have the luxury of being senior to this person and so I could say what I said to her.
If I were in a position such as your friend's I would do three things:
- I would focus on things I could appreciate. I don't care who you are or what your situation is, there is ALWAYS something that can be appreciated. Have her start right where she is, and look for any aspect of her life in which she IS experiencing peace.
- I heard Abraham say once that how we deal with things that happen in our lives has very little to do with what's actually happening. Something that one person takes completely in stride can send another off the deep end into anger or depression. I learned a long time ago that it's my choice whether to let someone push my buttons or not. After all, they're MY buttons and I can cut the power to them any time I choose to. (This takes practice! And the other person usually gets worse for a while. But it is AWESOME when you get the hang of it, because then nothing outside of you has any power to make you unhappy.)
- Remember this, "Where I place my attention, I am placing my Intention." Have her look for things this person does that does not upset her. Even if it's just that he leaves her alone for five minutes. If she focuses on the problem, that problem will just get bigger. But if she can focus at the solution level, then a solution WILL present itself just because she's willing trust that it's there, in the first place, and to look for it in the second place. Albert Einstein said, "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the level of thinking that created them." Practice focusing on what she WANTS.
Your friend is absolutely worthy of the peace that she would like to experience. The second that she decides that for herself, new ideas will come to her of ways that she can experience peace even in the middle of a not very peaceful situation. I know this from my own life - having done it myself. When I decided that my peace really did begin with me, the Universe cooperated with me every step of the way - inside myself first and that was an incredibly powerful place to be.
Let me know how she does! I'd be curious to know if this helps. The main thing she needs to do is to know that it really is possible for her situation to improve. If she doesn't believe that, then she will be taking her action steps from a place in which she'll just keep proving to herself that her situation is hopeless. Does that make sense?
One more thing. Mary Morrissey says in her book, "Building Your Field of Dreams," that you do not have to let the petty acts of an unhappy individual damage you. Let your friend know that. It's not about HER. It's about HIM. She can take it personally if she chooses to, but she doesn't have to.
Be well! I hope this helps.
Thanks Sierra, for mentioning the show!
Its amazing how the view changes when u start with the energies appreciate and gratitude  Iambecuz Iam worthy.
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jamieck
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Posted: Thu Jun 5th, 2008 11:28 am | 28th Post |
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My friend and i also say " All is Well" and keep repeating that phrase. I pass along all info i can, but if a person doesn't believe it is a little difficult to force her to. but i keep trying and All is Well.
 
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 02:42 pm | 29th Post |
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Is everyone feeling worthy today???!!! BECAUSE YOU ARE, YOU ARE, YOU ARE!!!
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LIVE A LIFE OF LOVE, LIGHT & LAUGHTER!
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DreamReacher
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 10:11 pm | 30th Post |
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Hello Carolan, and thank you!
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DreamReacher
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 10:19 pm | 31st Post |
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Hi Rewa, I'm happy you found us! I was just checking out your site and I love it!
Very nice!
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DreamReacher
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 10:21 pm | 32nd Post |
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Yes, Agent Sierra, I am feeling extra super-duper worthy today!!
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Sandi
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