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DreamReacher
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Posted: Sun Jul 13th, 2008 06:40 pm | 1st Post |
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What does ‘unconditional love’ mean?
I used to believe it meant, “I love you in spite of all your flaws.” Or maybe it meant, “I love you in spite of all the many things that I do NOT love about you.”
I got to thinking about this recently, and I decided that just can’t be right. I mean, really, does God—who loves all things unconditionally—look at me and say, “I love you in spite of all the things I see wrong with you.” No. When you think about it, God actually IS all things unconditionally, isn’t It? So how could God look at me and see anything wrong with me at all?
So, “I love you in spite of…” doesn’t seem like the true meaning of ‘unconditional love.’
What about, “I love you and I just don’t notice the things about you that could be considered unlovable.” That feels like denial to me. Like I’m turning my head and holding my hand up beside my eye so I won’t see the things I don’t want to see. Like I have deliberately put blinders on so I don’t have to look at the things I don’t like. That doesn’t seem like the true meaning of ‘unconditional love’ either.
So how do I believe God feels about me? God loves me INCLUDING EVERYTHING THERE IS ABOUT ME!! From God’s point of view there is no good or bad, no right or wrong, no appropriate or inappropriate, no beautiful or not beautiful, no smart or not smart. From God’s point of view it all just IS. And what that ‘just IS’ consists of is connection, lessons learned, and expansion.
I have been wanting to add a new “I Am” for weeks now, and I just haven’t been able to sit myself down and write anything that felt like it was coming from my heart. I have wanted my new “I Am” to be “I Am Loved,” and I probably could have written something out, but it would not have been inspired. And if it doesn’t feel inspired, not only am I not willing to spend time on it, but I really would not be willing to post it for others to read!
Now I know that just allowing “I Am Loved” to percolate within me for a while was the right thing for me to do. I just love how this works. I get an idea like this, and then God puts things in my experience that I can learn the lesson from! THAT is how much I am Loved!
I’ve had a couple of things happen over the last few days that I find myself applying this particular lesson to, and it feels as if these two things are the inspiration I have been waiting for. I know, without any question at all, that if I had not been pondering this particular “I Am” I would be feeling terrible right now, about both of these things, and probably others as well.
The first thing has to do with my dog, Roxie. Roxie is a four-year-old pit bull mixed mutt, who is very dearly loved in this household.
Last Monday evening, after Sydney Chase and I were done recording The Indigo Room, I went into the living room and saw that Roxie was lying on her back on the couch, all sprawled out. This is what she does and where she is the most comfortable. I went over to pat her on her belly and I saw a gigantic (almost golf ball sized) lump at one of her mammary glands. This lump came out of nowhere—it was not there the day before, or even earlier that day. We would have noticed it.
I was able to get her in to see the vet on Wednesday morning, and he told me that it’s a tumor and that there is a 50/50 chance that it is malignant. He did not want to do a biopsy, because he was afraid that—if it is malignant—sticking a needle in it would “fire it up” and cause it to spread. He recommended that, because of where it is and what it looks and feels like, it be removed whether it’s malignant or not. So she is scheduled for surgery this coming Thursday.
What does “I Am Loved” have to do with this? Well, I’ve had to ask myself, if God loves all things unconditionally, how does God feel about this? The only thing I can think is that God loves my dog INCLUDING the tumor! That tumor is a part of my dog right now, and I love my whole dog. If I look at it as “wrong” or “bad” or “unwanted,” what am I doing with my thoughts? I am not benefitting Roxie, or myself, at all with thoughts like that. What do I want to focus on? My dog is Loved. My WHOLE dog is Loved! This is where I am choosing to place my focus, and it is working beautifully to help me stay positive and not be upset and worried. I love Roxie. I love every part of Roxie, and the second I try to exclude that tumor from my love for my dog, I begin to feel bad and worried. So I’m not going there, and I feel good, and very appreciative that she is such a sweet and loving part of our family.
The second thing I’m experiencing has just happened this weekend, and it involves another person, money, and miscommunication.
I am not going to go into great detail with regard to this because I don’t think it’s necessary. Besides that, the part of me that needs to be right would get far too much enjoyment out of explaining, in depth, how I have been “wronged” in this situation. I’m not going to go there because the part of me that has learned so much about unconditional love lately has grown into something that I want to experience as much as possible. I do not need to be right. I just need to recognize that there are always lessons to be learned. And, really, “right” or “wrong,” it all just IS, isn’t it? What I choose to do with it is completely up to me. In this case I choose to learn the lesson I have asked for!
I also happen to believe that, through Law of Attraction, I have created this situation for myself and, through Law of Attraction, this other person has done the same.
Another thing I believe is that everything is connected to everything else. I am a part of this other person and she is a part of me. If I am being unloving toward her, what is that doing to me?
No, considering the conclusions I have come to with regard to unconditional love lately, that seems like the way to go. I have never met this woman in person, but that can’t stop me from loving every part of her. Should I love her in spite of the wrong that I feel she has done to me? Should I love the parts of her that I find lovable and do my best to ignore the wrong that I feel she has done to me?
Or, hey, what about this… According to the Teachings of Abraham, in the physical realm, there are two aspects to everything—what is wanted and lack of it. Why can’t I look at her and love the WHOLE of her, including the “wrong” that I feel she has done to me? Because in that “wrong” there is both what is wanted and lack of it. Why can’t I look at this whole situation as something to love because of the expansion and growth that it will cause as she and I both learn our respective lessons? Wow. That’s big. And that is what I choose. I choose to feel good with regard to it
And THAT feels like Unconditional Love to me.
Any thoughts? This is a gigantic topic, with many, many facets to it. I look forward to hearing some of them from others here in Atlantis!
Love,
Sandi
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Have an awesome day if you choose to!
Sandi
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